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Susan Jeffers’ ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’

Tuesday, April 7th, 2015

Isn’t it weird that, for all we want, our brains will do all it can get away with to avoid pain, even at the expense of great pleasure.

We’ll play it safe to avoid the pain of rejection, emotional strain or physical pain, even it means more pain for us in the long run. You might decide not to ask that special someone out for fear of getting rejected, or not ask for that day off because you don’t want to make your boss angry. In that case, our own mind is our worst enemy as it looks for shortcuts to avoid pain, no matter the cost.

Much of the time, we also thinking our ways out of social interactions. It’s amazing what one person can achieve when left to themselves, but bring one or more other people into the equation and you have a taller order getting those cogs to turn.

I myself have had issues with this before and more than once I’ve been labelled ‘pushover’, ‘spineless’ and other terms I don’t care to say.

This is where Susan Jeffers’ ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’ has been a big help.

I personally can’t believe that this book was published 26 years ago, because everything about it feels so close and relatable to me even though it’s older than I am!

Written by a woman in a time where most self-help books for women were still just written by men and only really discussed finding and keeping a man, this funny and charming book goes a step better in helping you learn to love and trust yourself and overcome your fear of fear.

The main aim of the book is to help us bust the myth that says we aren’t good enough to cope if the worst happens. What if we anger our boss asking for that day off and they fire me?! What if that girl I’ve wanted to ask out for weeks not only rejects me, but laughs at me?! What if? What if? What if? Aaaaaaaah! Noooooooo!

‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’ helpfully gets us to realise that, no matter the situation, we really can handle it. And once she’s helped us gain that ‘can do!’ attitude, she then goes on to give us an little extra kick up the ass to actually get passionate about going out there and making stuff happen.

I learnt from her that, no matter if the situation isn’t exactly a I’d like it, I can handle it and it is at least better to take steps and stumble than it is to just stand in one spot forever. I realised that I would feel worse to play it safe in life just to see that even weeds are growing more than me!

It’s a good book with some very simple and helpful ideas for getting out of your own way and learning to cut fear’s control over you and I’d highly recommend you give it a read or listen – And it’s quite short, so shouldn’t take too long to get through!

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